Relationships are like driving on the road. We have to pay attention or run the risk of a crash.
So, what if you have been paying attention to your relationship?
Are you guaranteed that you was avoid a crash?
Like driving on the road, relationships are not controlled by one person. You could be dedicated but something still goes off track.
On the road, if you see something going wrong early you can take steps to avoid the crash. Early warning can do the same for your relationship.
These 7 tell-tale signs will avoid a crisis in your relationship. Take heed!
1. Failure To Communicate
One of the earliest indications of a cooling off in a relationship is that the partners have little to talk about that is of mutual interest.
In healthy relationships, there is much dialogue. Think back to your initial connection. You could go on and on and be shocked at how much time has passed.
Now, however, the conversations are like a throw-back to the days of the telegram where you paid for each word that was sent.
When the dialogue dries up a part of the relationship is drying up with it.
2. Expecting Perfection
Nit-picking is one step up from the failure to communicate.
- Everything and anything evokes a negative response.
- Misunderstandings abound.
- You wonder, “Why are we having this discussion again?”
- Slowly, you are drifting into “Games People Play” territory.
You act out tedious, unhealthy roles time and time again. You detest your role, yet on cue you deliver your lines faithfully.
This nit-picking and boring theater may be a sign that your relationship is on a slippery slope.
3. Cooled Passion
Limited intimacy is another tell-tale sign that your relationship could be running into trouble.
This relates to the extent of physical contact – intimate or otherwise.
When the passion is high, couples somehow find themselves touching each other.
It comes from a subconscious feeling that a touch re-affirms and validates the emotional connection.
If physical contact is the confirmation of a emotional connection, what is the message that you can take from the absence of touch?
By the time it gets to the withdrawal of sexual relations, you will already know, right?
4. Having independent existences
Once you were almost inseparable.
You went everywhere together and you were “an item.” And now?
- What has your social calendar been like in the recent past?
- You are moving up the ladder to being virtual strangers occupying the same space.
- On the outside, it appears that there is a couple living in your residence.
- However, in reality there are two largely unconnected individuals in the home.
At this stage, the writing is all over your walls. The time is far gone for serious corrective action!
Any form of abuse is a no-no. Abuse might not only be physical.
Check on the tone and language that is being used in communication.
Are you saying supportive things or complaining or throwing verbal darts at each other?
Suspicions will abound about whether infidelity is at play when one or the other party senses that things are not as they used to be.
Be careful not to throw another issue in the mix without good cause.
If you have concerns then your best bet is to have a frank discussion about the matter with your partner.
If confirmed infidelity is taking place, it is not all over, but you have a challenge.
This is a pretty loud wake up call.
When talks of separation, taking a break, “cooling off with my parents” enter the picture, take the clue – your relationship is in crisis!
Hopefully, your relationship is on solid ground.
If not, car wrecks can be repaired and so can relationships.
With relationships, strong decisive action taken in a timely manner can lead to restoration and years of continued happiness.
The key is to look out for these 7 early warning signs and move quickly to take corrective action.
Ignoring them or being bogged down by fear or hurt is a bad idea.
Too many salvageable relationships fall apart because one party or the other was inattentive or failed to act decisively to restore the relationship.
Don’t mope – there is hope. Take the next step……
Invest in your relationship!
Whether you came through with flying colors, you have doubts or confirmed that there are challenges in your relationship, the message is that you should invest in your relationship.
As with driving, your relationship can be put at risk by:
- Inattentiveness and lack of due care
- Unauthorized texting or phoning
- Negotiating dangerous curves (not those on the road 🙂 )
- Attachment to six-packs (not those from beer companies 🙂 )
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